{"id":23793,"date":"2019-10-22T15:50:32","date_gmt":"2019-10-22T10:50:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/jworldtimes.com\/old-site\/?p=23793"},"modified":"2019-11-22T10:47:29","modified_gmt":"2019-11-22T05:47:29","slug":"learn-say-no","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.jworldtimes.com\/old-site\/others\/learn-say-no\/","title":{"rendered":"Learn to Say \u201cNo\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Learn to Say<\/span> \u201cNo\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n

Laiba Muhammad Aamir<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Humans are social animals and they cannot help themselves without interaction with one another. In their communications, an easy \u2018yes\u2019 always wins over the difficult \u2018no\u2019 creating a lot of problems. Living in a \u2018yes\u2019 culture, we think more about the comfort of the other person, even though we may have to face a great mental disruption. It is in our nature. However, this \u2018yes-no\u2019 game always defines the potential of our relations. Vanessa M. Patrick, an associate professor of marketing at the University of Houston says, \u201cThe ability to communicate \u2018no\u2019 reflects that you are in the driver\u2019s seat of your life.\u201d But, it needs a lot of strength to believe in, and practice, this lesson. Unfortunately, we feel ourselves compelled to accept every request made by our friends, family and colleagues. We agree to do favours to others but, at the end of the day, we either overload ourselves and sacrifice our time or fail to meet the already made commitment. Hence, it is necessary to learn how to say \u2018no\u2019 when someone asks you to step outside your true responsibilities and comfort zone which is either dangerous or adversely effects your inner and outer personality.<\/p>\n

\"Saying-no\"<\/a>We often forget the fact that we should place ourselves at the top of our priority list. We sacrifice our mental peace for others because it is a general notion that the more one makes compromises, the more it will be easier to live one\u2019s life. If we think more openly, we find that it gets harder and harder to the point when life gets meaningless. There is no ease in making others happy, but living with inner turmoil. If one wants to achieve some real goals in life, the art of saying no is a must-learn lesson to realize one\u2019s worth. It does not only give mental peace but also the sense of self-care, freedom and independence.<\/p>\n

We develop the unnecessary need of saying \u2018yes\u2019 and guilt of saying \u2018no\u2019 since our childhood. Childhood experiences and influences are key to formulate our behaviours such as \u201cI am lovable only if I say \u2018yes\u2019 to everything.\u201d Children are taught to always say \u2018yes\u2019 even to what they want to say \u2018no.\u2019 Their self esteem is badly crushed because saying \u2018no\u2019 is considered as rude and disrespectful towards others. During this whole saying \u2018yes\u2019 culture, the self respect of the person is gone for sure.<\/p>\n

Normally, the most common reason of always a yes-sir kind of person is because of the fear of being disliked and criticized. It is the fear of being called rude and arrogant that we say the opposite of what we want to actually say. In such cases, the idea of hurting or rejecting someone\u2019s opinion engulfs us so much that we forget that we, too, have our own opinions. Such always-pleasing-others kind of behaviour will no doubt earn you a good name but it wouldn\u2019t stay long.<\/p>\n

Our opinions matter for those who understand us. Our yes or no will not take them away from us. In fact, such a straightforward behaviour will help make our relations more clear and firm. Those people who are direct in their answers are more trustworthy and dependable.<\/p>\n

Also, we don\u2019t need to be overly apologetic about our saying \u2018no\u2019. Everyone has a right to be direct about his answers and opinions. Equally, most of the times, when we reject someone, they always think that we owe them an explanation. Not at all. Instead of lying, making lame excuses, justifying ourselves with unnecessary explanations, and twisting and twirling our statement, just say \u201cI don\u2019t,\u201d instead of \u201cI can\u2019t.\u201d<\/p>\n

\"why-say-no-to-clients\"<\/a>This ability to say \u2018no\u2019 is linked with self-confidence and self-esteem. People with low confidence keep others\u2019 needs higher than their own. The lesson of saying \u2018no\u2019 when it is appropriate is the best ever gift one can gift to one\u2019s self. The ironic fact is, you will earn respect from people around you and your self too because you are damn clear in the boundaries of your values. Plus, don\u2019t be afraid of losing someone because of your opinions. Be afraid of losing yourself by always trying to please others and being a \u2018pushover.\u2019<\/p>\n

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Learn to Say \u201cNo\u201d Laiba Muhammad Aamir Humans are social animals and they cannot help themselves without interaction with one another. In their communications, an easy \u2018yes\u2019 always wins over the difficult \u2018no\u2019 creating a lot of problems. Living in a \u2018yes\u2019 culture, we think more about the comfort of the other person, even though …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":23794,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[10390,5,131,10930,4],"tags":[574,8438,9668,1226,40,1161,10115,10943,537,258,8467,3790],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jworldtimes.com\/old-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23793"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jworldtimes.com\/old-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jworldtimes.com\/old-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jworldtimes.com\/old-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jworldtimes.com\/old-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=23793"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.jworldtimes.com\/old-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23793\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":23797,"href":"https:\/\/www.jworldtimes.com\/old-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23793\/revisions\/23797"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jworldtimes.com\/old-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/23794"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jworldtimes.com\/old-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=23793"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jworldtimes.com\/old-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=23793"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jworldtimes.com\/old-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=23793"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}