A Road to

Self-Connection

Laiba MuhammadAamir

In today’s world, where science and technology are conquering every small aspect of life, and people are running after material success, the connection of a person to his/her soul is completely broken. We have already surpassed the past ages in the field of material development but the bridge to one’s soul will hardly be reconstructed if it is not given attention. Surprisingly, people are focusing more to decorate their surroundings, but they seem unaware that they are getting hollow from inside. The more people are getting busy in material world, the more they are losing their true self. William Butler Yeats predicted well the 21th century in his poem “The Second Coming” when he talked about the modern man, who is disconnected to his centre, in these words; “things fall apart; the centre cannot hold.”

In this world full of chaos, people are mostly relying on others and trying to achieve false standards of hopes. We are looking for others to compensate our loss without understanding that no one and nothing will help us ever if we can’t help ourselves.

The reason why we lack in personal growth is the belief that outer circumstances and their agents will aid us whereas the truth is something else. The primary cause of our dissatisfaction and unhappiness is that we are unaware of our thoughts. We do not give credit any more to our self and consider it completely unworthy. We have failed to recognize that the central wheel upon which the whole universe is running lies within us, and not outside. The moment one realizes what tremendous potentials one has got is the beginning of a new, successful and satisfied life. Law of nature works for those who believe in themselves. Escape from worldly chaos only comes with the relation of being one with one’s self. It will work only when you love yourself, motivate yourself and accept your failures by forgiving yourself.

The connection of a person with his/her lingering soul starts with self-love and let me tell you, self-love is not selfish. Self-love means to take out some time to stay with yourself to accompany you. It means to take care of your heart which you have confined only to the happiness of others. It means you need to treat yourself like a beloved because only you will make your dreams come true. Self-love means to work hard for your mental and emotional being and struggle for what mountains you want to move. Only you will provide this power to yourself and no one else in this universe.

When a person connects to the centre of his soul, (s)he no longer needs false support for motivation. Mark Manson, an author and entrepreneur, explained a very amazing chain and called it ‘Do Something’ principle. He was told by his teacher, “If you are stuck in a problem, do not sit there and think about it; just start working on it. Start with yourself. Do something and the answers will follow.” That something can be anything which must be done without the help of someone else. Action is not only the effect of motivation, but cause too which comes from one’s own self. Instead of waiting for the outside world to motivate us, we must see within our self for the inspiration and this inspiration comes from the ‘Do Something’ principle.

Deep down, we know what we are capable of. We even see the glimpses of our inside potentials sometimes but we waste it by waiting for someone else to tell us what a gem we are and stay deaf to what our inner self is telling us.

On this road to self-connection and realization, people get hopeless when a stone comes their way. We avoid obstacles without paying attention to the fact that these hurdles were created to make us stronger. We block blessings by not giving a second chance to what we failed in once. Carrying the heavy weight of our dreams on a bumpy road is hard but these struggles bring us closer to our destination. Failure must be treated as yet another chance to work hard and not as a last chance. Also, a child never learns to walk on his first attempt. If he is unwilling to fall, he is unwilling to walk. The connection to your soul will be discounted time by time but give it time to keep your inner world in order.

When you love yourself, motivate yourself, and embrace your failures, you start knowing yourself and this is the beginning of a wonderful experience when you will be your beloved and your company will matter the most to you. Do not be harsh on yourself. Give yourself what you deserve and never settle for less which the outside world is offering you. Let the universe know what a power house you are by connecting to your soul and treating it well.

It all starts with you. No matter what is happening, spend time with yourself. In other words, these are experiences less and a rebirth more. Step by step. This connection to one’s soul is a divine way of shedding so much of one’s past without judging one’s self on the basis of current situation because there is a whole world and many possibilities waiting. The whole world is inside us. To find peace, you must be at peace with yourself first. Stop looking outside for your value. With this gift of soul connection, you will never be lonely even if you are alone in this materialistic world. This world is sustained on your thoughts; situations are neutral. Make yourself your power and the entire universe is yours.

The Second Coming

William Butler Yeats

Turning and turning in the widening gyre

The falcon cannot hear the falconer;

Things fall apart; the centre cannot hold;

Mere anarchy is loosed upon the world,

The blood-dimmed tide is loosed, and everywhere

The ceremony of innocence is drowned;

The best lack all conviction, while the worst

Are full of passionate intensity.

Surely some revelation is at hand;

Surely the Second Coming is at hand.

The Second Coming! Hardly are those words out

When a vast image out of Spiritus Mundi

Troubles my sight: somewhere in sands of the desert

A shape with lion body and the head of a man,

A gaze blank and pitiless as the sun,

Is moving its slow thighs, while all about it

Reel shadows of the indignant desert birds.

The darkness drops again; but now I know

That twenty centuries of stony sleep

Were vexed to nightmare by a rocking cradle,

And what rough beast, its hour come round at last,

Slouches towards Bethlehem to be born?